A colourless world

I wrote this some time ago as a metaphor for how people who don’t have any intuitive faculties would fail to understand these faculties in other people. The metaphor extends beyond intuition. There’s some people who have no relationship with their...

How we use words

It’s very important to choose your words carefully. In conversation many people use general terms or terms that don’t really describe what they want to convey. There are a number of reasons why we should choose our words carefully. As an example, imagine...

Left and right brain thinking

The functions of the left and right hemispheres are widely misunderstood, but in brief the functions can be interpreted as follows: The left hemisphere controls anything to do with space and time (most of what we call ‘thinking’ in the West). It is where we do our...

Abusive relationships

I rarely see women who are in an abusive relationship. I often see them when they have come out of an abusive relationship though. Sometimes this is when they are trying to get their lives back together or sometimes it’s something that happened in their past and...

Blame and responsibility

It’s the way of the world now that everyone talks about ‘blame’. I’ve mentioned before that blame removes power. When someone uses the word ‘blame’ for their situation they are saying that they are powerless. It’s someone else...

Self observation

Always when people come in for therapy they find the process beneficial and they often remark that their spouse / sister / brother / cousin / friend etc ought to come in. I usually ask the same question: Do they know they have a problem, and invariably the answer is...